Or exactly the opposite, really. How long have people been writing love songs FULL of double entendres, trying to get the idea through? And now, with lyrics so open about what’s going on, it’s kind of sickening. I found a list (via Google) of The Top Ten Songs About Losing Your Virginity. My search term? “Songs about virginity”. There weren’t any songs empowering women to make their own choices or keep their virginity. None that strengthen people to the idea that it’s a precious gift worth keeping.
Where is the song explaining the feeling of loss when it’s gone? Or the emotional trauma that some people go through after having sex for the first time? The song that gives the chemical effects (of having sex) on the body, where’s that? I want music that tells me that my choice isn’t strange or wrong.
Robin Thicke’s famous song “Blurred Lines” has gotten a lot of backlash as being offensive and demoralizing to women, but somehow it still remains high on the charts and popular on the radios. Katy Perry’s song “Roar” explains that she a let a man (presumably) push her down and now she’s taking back her self-confidence. Why let them get you down in the first place?
We have horrible double-standards. Not only for men but for women. If a guy has sex with a lot of women he’s impressive but if a girl has sex with a lot of men she’s a slut or whore. There should be one universal label. The same goes for women who date younger men and are empowered and men who date younger women and suddenly become social pariahs. Everyone should be held to one standard.
Having grown up in a family where men were considered slightly better than women in the way they were treated, I have a deep seated respect for the opposite sex. But I’m also very strong in my opinion that I am equal to them. Nobody is telling me that my worth comes from my downstairs region. Nobody is going to convince me that my choice is wrong and sex is the only way to keep a guy.
If he thinks that sex is the only reason to stay, he’s the wrong man. So long, farewell!
The media needs to change things up a bit and remember that women are strong and important. Losing your virginity is your own choice (no matter what gender you are) and it’s up to you to do what you think is right. Just don’t let anyone else be the deciding factor.
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